I’m proud of you for taking that first big step to doing something amazing for yourself.
Boudoir sessions are about celebrating and loving you and your beautiful body – every curve, lump, roll, and dimple of it. It’s about channeling your inner badass and feeling fantastic about yourself.
At the beginning of a boudoir session, most clients are a little nervous or overwhelmed at first. But they quickly get over it when they realize how much fun we’re having. I create a safe space for you let go and be your true self. You’ll feel comfortable and cared for. I’ll give you gentle guidance and direction throughout the boudoir session, so you never feel at a loss for what to do.
Again, I know this can feel overwhelming, but I’m always here to help you if you’re feeling nervous. If you have any questions about anything, please drop me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Please arrive at my studio with clean, moisturized skin, and clean, DRY hair.
My suggestion is to either have nothing or your nails or have your nails done in a simple neutral color. Try to avoid neon colors unless that’s your trademark thing! Soft pinks, white, burgundy, or dark red, navy blue, black, taupe, or grey all look great.
If you’re planning to get a haircut or color, make sure you give yourself a few days to make sure you are happy with it. I recommend scheduling your salon appointment 5-7 days before your shoot.
Boudoir shoots are a lot of work, and you’ll need lots of energy, so it’s really important that you properly fuel your body on the days leading up to your shoot. Do not starve yourself thinking that it will make you look thinner for photos. That’s not what this is about.
Keeping properly hydrated is always important, but try to drink extra H2O all the way leading up to your shoot. It makes your skin look great and can help clear up breakouts.
Again, boudoir shoots are a lot of work. It’ll be easier to achieve poses if you’re properly stretched.
Please do NOT spray tan or go to a tanning bed. It does not translate well on camera.
Your skin will thank you! Along with all of that water you’ve been drinking, your skin should be looking glowy and fabulous. Like the immaculate creature you are.
Now is not the time to experiment! You’ll likely end up with angry, red, irritated skin and that’s NOT something that can be hidden or “Photoshopped” out.
It’s easier to cover pimples if you DON’T pop them. Our in-house hair and makeup artist will do a fantastic job covering any pimples! (Just go on ahead and pick up a box of these and if you wake up the morning of your shoot with a pimple, you can put one of those little stickers over it to calm it down and shrink it a bit before your shoot. You can thank me later.)
I get that you might be nervous. But trust me, alcohol is NOT the answer. It’s my job to make you feel comfortable! I do not allow drinking before my boudoir sessions.
Make sure everything fits how you like, and is comfortable. You can leave the tags on (unless you’re absolutely sure you want to keep it) that way, if we don’t end up using something, you can return it if you want.
Arrive wearing loose-fitting, comfy clothes. We want to avoid tight clothes or bras that will leave red lines on your body (so feel free to skip the bra altogether!)
Arrive 10-15 minutes early for your shoot so we have time to go through your outfits, and you can peruse the Client Closet. Bring as many outfits as you’d like. If you’re not sure about something, bring it anyway! I’ll help you narrow down the best options.
If you love jewelry, don’t forget to bring some of your favorite pieces. You can wear jewelry with your outfits, or nude!
I don’t usually shoot with heels or shoes, but if it’s part of your outfit, or something you’d like to include, we can definitely do that! Make sure the bottoms of your shoes are clean (just wipe them down) if they’ve been worn before.
I’m also sending you my What to Wear Guide that goes through everything in more detail, but here’s the gist of it: Wear what you feel amazing in. What matters is that you’re comfortable, you feel good in it, and it feels like you. The point of this shoot is not fitting into any mold or idea of what “should be”.
Here are some links to online options for lingerie. I know lingerie shopping in person can be incredibly difficult (and frustrating) if you’re not a “standard size”. Most of these are inclusive or at least go up to a 3x.
For Love & Lemons (sustainable)
Just Babes Club (one of my faves)
Savage x Fenty
Smart Glamour (also check out their body suits!)
Bawdy Love Clothing
The Girlfriend Collective (sustainable / more casual)
Amazon (tons of reviews!)
Hips & Curves
and my favorite website for styling:
PebbyForevee — The sizing is mid-size range, but you have to check her out to see how she styles things. I love what she does with bramis and glam jewelry. Def boudoir-inspo worthy browsing. She’ll show you how to make the stuff you probably already have in your closet look sexy as hell.
And the tees… I can vouch for the tees. They’re soft and comfy and they look amazing with leggings. The sleeves aren’t too long or baggy or off.
If you’re super self-conscious about your middle, then you’ll def want to check out how she styles her tees. It’s the most boudoir shoot worthy styling of a tee I’ve ever seen.
Prior to your boudoir session, I will give you the posing spiel rundown. Then as we are shooting, I will demonstrate each pose first, and gently guide you through everything. I’ll let you know everything you need to do, from where to look, how to tilt your head, what to do with your hands and your feet (point the toes!) as well as give you basic pointers on what not to do.
My biggest tip is to just get into it! The more you really get into it, the better. It’s a joint effort of making art together 😉
Some poses are uncomfortable, but let me know if anything hurts or pinches or pulls. Let me know if you have any injuries or limitations. (This is why it’s important to stretch!)
There is no sucking it in or hiding or minimizing in my studio. There is no apologizing for the space you take up.
If you have a big belly and it hangs low or pokes out or has stretch marks or it jiggles, then I encourage you to show it off. If you’re still working towards accepting this part of your body, then this is a fantastic way to celebrate it, or any part of your body that you may have some harsh feelings towards.
Your boudoir session is a great way to connect to your body. So let your belly (and your body) do its thing, uninhibited.
By no means is nudity mandatory, but getting naked (or even just topless) during your boudoir session is soooo liberating! I keep nude poses beautiful and classic, and the level of sexiness is totally in your control. It’s whatever you’re comfortable with! (And we can always use an artfully placed white sheet or plush blanket for implied nudity.)
I do not allow alcohol to be consumed before or during your shoot. If I suspect a client has been drinking before their shoot, I will ask them to leave and our contract will be terminated. This rule is VERY important! If you’re feeling nervous, please know that I’m here to ease your nerves. You do not need alcohol!
Please come alone to your boudoir session. If you must bring a friend or family member, they will have to wait out in the hallway or in the coffee shop while we shoot. It is VERY difficult to get comfortable and let go and have fun when someone you know is watching you. You’ll feel more weird than empowered. Trust me.
My studio is a safe, loving, accepting space. There is NO self-hate talk, diet / diet culture talk, or intentional weight loss talk. If you want to talk about the things you’ve been through, that’s totally ok! Just don’t depreciate yourself. My studio is a place of positive, loving thoughts and comments about ourselves.
For example: saying something like, “I used to loathe myself and my body, but it’s something I’ve been working on,” is okay. Saying, “Ugh. I am sooo gross. I should have lost weight before my shoot. Can you make me look skinny?” is NOT okay. Which brings us to…
I DO NOT and WILL NOT edit your photos to make you look thinner, more toned, etc. This is non-negotiable. I also do NOT allow my clients to take their photos to be edited elsewhere. I do NOT get rid of tattoos, sun burns, tan lines, logos, etc.
However, I WILL get rid of pimples, upon request. (And we’ll talk more about that at your shoot.)
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Mama to Gigi. Cat person. Feminist. Houseplant collector. Metal head. Avid life-long thrifter. I dislike pants and Diet Culture. I believe that Love is Love and Black Lives Matter. I’m an OG weird kid with a pretty good sense of humor. I’ve always been whatever the opposite of cool is, and not in the way that not cool is cool now. But I think when I’m 80 it’ll work in my favor and I’ll be like, super badass. I really don’t follow trends and I don’t do slang or buzz words. I just say fuck a lot instead. Fuck is timeless. It never goes out of style. Kind of like a good black and white photo.